Being a parent isn't an easy job. This is because you must find the balance between your emotions and your child's, which is often hard because you are both human beings. But parenting is even more challenging when the child is a teenager. Indeed, teens are known for their ability to push their parents' buttons. When this type of situation happens, it's easy to lose your temper, and perhaps react disproportionately to the point that your relationship with your child is broken. If this scenario applies to you, then you will find this article interesting.
You and your teenager need both time and space to cool down
Arguments are part of the life in society. Yet, regardless of how violent they are, they can still be settled, provided that both time and space are given to the people involved. If you were deeply angered in a recent argument that you had with your teenager, then you must back off for a while to calm your temper. This will allow you to get it together, and rethink about the exchange that took place.
Your teenager will also need their space, and probably more time than you to cool down. It's only after both of you have cleared your minds of negative feelings and thoughts that you'll be able to effectively address the initial issue.
Apologizing will teach your teenager how to respect others
There are many parents who have the wrong conception about apologizing after an argument with their teenager, because they believe that doing so means that they're taking the blame. But, this is more false than true. As a parent, you need to understand that you're a role model for your child. So by apologizing, you're basically teaching your kid to be respectful towards others.
In addition, this will be a good opportunity for your teen to see what needs to be done to keep a relationship healthy. Put in simplest terms, apologizing is a way of telling your kid that you're sorry for losing control.
Communication is the most important repair tool
The more you communicate with you teen, the faster your relationship with them will be repaired. For example, if you took a decision that they didn't like, then you need to give them some explanation. Although they may not agree with it at first, they'll eventually come to understand that you have their safety at heart.
Applying these tips should be enough to help you repair a broken relationship with your teenager after an argument. But if you need additional guidance, then feel free to contact a counselor in your area, such as Albano Fischetti Counseling.Share